How did my husbands ex end up on my computer?

Being the nice, accommodating daughter in law that I am, when my father in law wanted to share some family pictures with me, I gladly handed over my laptop. I mean, who doesn't want to see their significant other in 80's esque shorts and Bronx?

It wasn't until later that I discovered, not only had he shared with me all of the Christmases and camping trips, but also a rather uncomfortable folder of my husband and the dreaded ex girlfriend. As you can expect, I wasn't overjoyed. But why did it bother me?

Was I having an Angelina Jolie vs Jennifer Aniston moment? 

He hasn't seen her in a "hundred years" and he married me. I know I'm way hotter (this is my mean side trying to break free). As you by now know, I don't have the best temper and so, what may or may not have been an innocent slip (I have my conclusions, but those will stay with me) turned into an all out war.

I quickly realized that it wasn't her that was bugging me. It was the fact that at ten years my senior he had lived a massive life before me. That I was jealous of his life without me, before me. That we would have very few firsts together as a couple because he had done a lot of things without me. That I didn't have a life before him.

On scouring the internet for answers, I discovered this video. Matthew Hussey breaks it down so well, we can experience things together and create our own memories. So whether or not he had a life before me, with or without people, the rest of our lives together are going to be our own unique experience that no one could ever have. 

I apologized, to my husband, and ignored my father in law for the remainder of his visit and booked us a nice holiday at a place neither of us had ever been to, with his credit card.

Does this same issue get to you? Do you wish all of your life experiences were together? Does his ex bug you?